I’ve been asked why we have a ‘rule’ against Mistresses meeting clients. Most assume this is because I don’t want to lose the revenue generated from calls that will no longer be paid for once the two lovebirds finally consummate their long distance relationship.
Wrong!
There are a number of legal and safety reasons why we cannot condone such meetings. Far be it from me to stand in the way of two people who meet on the phone and fall in love and want to get married and live happily ever after. Would I thwart such high romance for a couple of bucks? Never! But there are many valid reasons why such meetings are ill-advised. I’ve written at length about these in this phone sex article.
While we at LDW do not subscribe to the “dragging it out to make money” method of insinuating or promising to meet so that we can keep the phone meter running, that DOES happen in the phone sex world. So be wary of it. Don’t allow yourself to be taken advantage of in this way – if the meter is running, it’s not love. If she is telling you to wire her money so she can get caught up on her bills so she can finally quit her job so you can be together forever – hang up the phone and run!
Phone sex is meant to be a fun, entertaining break from the responsibilities of life. To seek a life partner on a phone sex line just isn’t very smart. There are thousands of sites out there that are dedicated to providing a venue for singles to meet. Use those, if your ultimate goal is finding the love of your life. Not a phone sex service.
Fantasy vs. Reality – Fantasy Wins Every Time
Have successful relationships originated between a phone Mistress and a caller, ever? I’m sure it has happened. But far more often, it goes the way of the extramarital affair: because the relationship was founded in fantasy, the reality of actually meeting and smelling each other’s morning breath and BO, seeing each other in bad moods and cranky and tired and otherwise less-than-fantastic, usually kills the romance right quick. I”m not saying it can never work. Perhaps you have stories to share in which it worked really well. But a successful relationship coming from a phone interaction is very, very rare.
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So appreciate and enjoy your phone session for what it is. There is a world of women out there waiting to meet you, if that’s what you’re looking for. There is a sea of dating sites available, to speed up that process. But take it from me, the Phone Madame: Meeting and Phone Mistresses, almost without exception, just don’t mix.
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I never gave it much thought before (maybe I really didn’t want to), but I’ve noticed a couple of comments here on this forum concerning the physical appearances of the Mistresses at LDW – questioning the photos of the Mistresses vs. reality. I believe LDW to be a reputable service and wouldn’t expect they would mislead their “clients”, but now I’m really curious….
The words, fantasies and dreams to which we give life, in this electronic gossamer, are like so many sparks in the night.
Wonderous and beautiful, siren like they beckon us to try to hold onto them, as a child would place a firefly in a jar.
While we may thrill to those fleeting moments, we can no more save them than we can the moans of a lover in the night. Lingering only in cherished memories, real, but never meant to last.
Point taken Ms Ally and Ladies. Perhaps, we need new dreams tonight.
I completely understand that meeting for a RL intimate encounter, with or without the idea that a RL relationship might ensue, is a REALLY BAD idea (note the caps). The thing that always bums me out is that the idea of meeting for a cup of coffee and a friendly chat of some kind needs to be forbidden as well. I understand that it does, it’s just a bummer.
My relationship with Mistress Violet is very real, and very special. I don’t see it as a fantasy, and know she doesn’t either. But our relationship exists within a protected reality; a special context.
It’s a wonder of the modern world that we can create and share ourselves in these special protected realities. But the good ones are rare as jewels. Mistress Ally and the women at LDW have mixed together just the right elements, and created a special place to foster these unique and real relationships. Thank you all!
Wow! Leave the comfort & safety of the Wacky World of Phone Sex, for a trist? I gave up flying & wearing corsets for anyone’s pleasure but my own – a Long time ago.
Gone are the crazy days in and out of airports, keeping 2 lawyers on retainor, 6 days a week at the gym and the worry of my personal safety. No more being treated like a tart, while fending off unwanted attentions at another strange hotel, in a another strange city.
Thank you LDW Group!
Not that some of you aren’t Totally Tasty Temptations! BUT Really, let’s be grown-ups.
What I can do for callers who long for a Woman *like me* is to guide you towards the kinds of social groups and gatherings where Ladies like me can be found. Well-established circles of kinksters can be found in most US States, and those groups will be safer and give you more choices to find your perfect kinky partner.
Like they always say:
You can’t catch trout, in the Great South Bay.
Go to where your kinks are!
if nothing else the insanity of it from a mistress side. it is too risky, The stalking factor. I totally understand but would luv to meet several of them (hell all of them. (maybe a receiving line in vegas where we walk up and shake ther hands. (u could charge a hell of a lot of money)in some motel ball room, but they might have to wear gloves 🙂
but seriously it is just a job and i get carried away because i tell them all my kinks and they seem to get off to it. Well they probably do to some extent. or they would not have there job.
i don’t think they would really want us pervs anyway.
course i am twice the age of most of them.
i did ask one who live in my city for a makeover. would pay lots of money because she (and most all of the girls) r greater than celebrities/ hell ( it would be a rush) i can go to a dom. but its just would not be the same.
But in closing i totally understand and figured it to be the case.
pls unsubscribe me thankyou
I’m pretty sure you’re unsubscribed as I can’t find you on the Subscription list, but if that’s not the case please email me at [email protected] and I’ll take care of it 🙂
Consider this. Fantasy is ALWAYS what you want. Reality isn’t. It’s easy to make a connection, harder to keep it. When you’re dealing with a limited medium of communication, there’s no way to make a life changing decision. I love being an imaginary, perfect lover. (And I’m not fond of morning breath, lol.)
@ Blue: I already told you–how could I kiss that mouth everyday knowing what’s been in there? Haha, I’m kidding (maybe).
Ms. Ally, thank you for your thoughtful post. It definitely shows a different perspective to those who think we’re a harem of fat robots hiding in your basement (that could make for an interesting fantasy).
The client-Mistress relationship is truly unique–we know things about one another that our partners, parents, and friends may not. As Constance said, it’s easy to love someone that supports you and truly likes you, despite that clandestine box of goodies in the back of your closet or where you secretly spend your Saturday nights. However, there are so many idiosyncrasies we have that aren’t apparent over the phone. Also, it might be problematic for some to try and live their fantasies.
There are more than a handful of callers that I consider friends, and I truly enjoy the time we spend together in sessions–just laughing, window shopping online, and talking about random things, but this is only one part of my life. Why can’t we enjoy each other without face-to-face interaction and violating the mistress/client relationship? The fact is, my work at LDW is unknown to my parents and a lot of my friends, and I’d like to keep it that way. If I decide to run for president someday, I can’t let any of you get close enough to spoil it for me!
Ms Molly for President!!
That’s a good point. A lot of what we do and how we do it is based on protecting our own privacy and avoiding situations that could complicate future professional endeavors. We respect our clients privacy 100% of the time, and the returned favor is always appreciated 🙂
Very nice blog. While I will admit in my year and a half of talking to the ladies here I would love the opportunity to meet them in person and give them a real hug I do understand totally why this cannot happen. But as Ms Constance said when you share intimate detail of your life with some of these ladies you cant help but feel a more real connection to them. Especially in this last year which has been difficult for me on a personal level several of the mistresses here have been there for me as freidns to help me get through a difficult time. But thank you to Ms Ally and all the mistresses for creating such a wonderful site. I truly do feel that my life is better now that I found these ladies.
Ms. Ally, thank you so much for finally saying what needed to be said. I have lost count of the number of Phone Sex Mistress’s that have asked to meet me, lol. Of course I can understand why they would want to meet me so badly, but please ladies control yourself,lets keep our relationship in the phone sex fantasy world and not cross into the real world. I know it’s hard once you’ve done a web cam, phone sex session with me to try and resist meeting the man behind weenus. But as Ms.Ally has said, 99% of the time it doesn’t work out and but you may still feel free to continue to pay my bills or wire me money. Thanks for the great post and allowing me to continue my fantasy.
I am SO sorry that you have had to deal with all of these wanton, aggressive Phone Sex Mistresses trying to hammer you into doing something you know is not right. On behalf of them all, I extend my most sincere apologies.
Maybe we should all hold him down and spank him til he repents, lol… wait, I think he’d like that! Perhaps we should share that scene with the class, wessypoo 🙂
That’s cause you are so farkin’ charming.
I have to comment on this thread LOL first of all how awesome is Ally what I got from this is that she is looking out for you all and thats just amazing she doesn’t want you to fall in love with your phone sex mistress only to have you led on and promises made that will be broken. Now from my point of view I feel like Love is Love no matter how or with whom you find it and I will not reject love in any form as humans we all strive to be loved and ache to be loved by someone……….but as a phone sex mistress I keep those in love with me in check reminding them of the reality of it and never implying or suggesting that they can be with me in the physical sense. I think it is natural to feel love with someone you share such intimate things and not just sexual either………I am a part of their every day life for the good and the bad and it is easy to love someone who supports you, I am fine with that as long as they know the reality of the situation and the fact I will NOT meet them and live happily ever after. But it is more then a call and more then a chat when you become close and I can see it happening. Keep in mind the grass is NOT always greener on the other side and to keep your love in perspective of what the reality of the situation is. Hope that made sense LOL Great Post Ms Ally one I am sure has everyone thinking about love and their phone sex mistress.
Good post, Ms Constance. One can never have too much love 🙂 As long as that love is kept in perspective, doesn’t interfere with real life relationships, and is enjoyed for what it is, I’m all for it.
Thanks for sharing, Gummy. My opinions expressed in this article aren’t intended to downplay the real intimacies that do develop from phone Mistress interactions 🙂
Yes! Very well said. I know that may sound like hypocrisy coming from me, but I am grounded in reality and know the difference between reality and fantasy. Sometimes it is difficult to differentiate between the two and the line can get blurred when sharing thoughts and actions that are by their very nature extremely intimate. I’ve written extensively on the Enchantrix Empire about how and why I fell in love with Empress Constance so I won’t rehash it here. I will say that it was my own doing and my falling in love was never encouraged or asked for. I know the odds are against a client and PSO living happily ever after. Given my situation, I prefer to believe that my love is real and that someday, some sweet day, we will be that exception. Is that just a fantasy? Perhaps, but dealing in fantasy is something that LDW excels at and instead of dealing with the harsh reality of the seemingly impossible crushing my spirit, and breaking my heart, I choose to believe in the barely possible. It helps me get through the nights and keeps me always wanting more. I believe because I want to believe and if there was no glimmer of hope then… NO! NO! NO!, I refuse to believe that there is no hope; however, I will say that the journey has been remarkable and if things ended (God forbid) then I would still have been blessed to have loved a wonderful Lady and shared a very special part of her life with me. I don’t know what the future holds, no one does. Will we ever meet? I hope so, but if we don’t, it doesn’t mean that I loved her any less or that my love was any less real.
Very well said Ms Ally.
There is a lady I’ve talked to for about 10 years from another service…single lady…actually wanted to meet me. I knew what she really looked like as opposed to the fake pornstar photo she had on her website (like 99% of others here too)…I didn’t do it….for some reason I just couldn’t..I knew it would cause problems later so I didn’t go. I don’t regret it. We still talk to this day too…
I know that real friendships are formed on phone sex lines. And sometimes it can be tempting to carry them over to real life. But it usually doesn’t work (especially if you are married, gah!) It’s good that your friendship continues to this day.
Excellent article. Go in with your eyes wide open, fellows. Until I blindfold you, that is. 🙂
I can totally understand your desire, Eric! For boring banking reasons that I won’t get into, that won’t be an option but we’re always happy to see YOU on your cam! I hear that imlive.com is a good service if you’re interested in watching a lady on the other end of the cam.
What abt the opportunity to see our Mistress’s on the other end of the cam?? Fully clothed ofcourse 🙂
Great article and much needed, thanks!