A Primer on Ruined Orgasms
by Ms Lauren of Kinkblogger.com
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What Is a Ruined Orgasm?
A ruined orgasm is a type of erotic sexual denial that is a bittersweet end to an extended bout of tease and denial. After edging over and over, the orgasm is stopped at the source at the moment of ejaculation but either ending stimulation or blocking the flow of ejaculate. Some fluid may escape, but full satisfaction is not achieved. A ruined orgasm is unsatisfying, awkward and sometimes more than a little painful. Afterward, the penis is still aroused, maybe even able to continue on to another round of teasing and orgasm denial.
Why Ruin an Orgasm?
Men who love tease and denial are often ambivalent about orgasm. They love the build up of tension that keeps their entire body, not just their privates, on edge. But when that final moment comes, they understand an orgasm would be a regression. Ruined orgasms are another teasing tool that leaves the denied male aching and throbbing, but ultimately denied the experience of a normal orgasm.
How to Ruin an Orgasm
There are many techniques that will leave a submissive male begging for ruined release. Some of the techniques include abandoning, bleeding, dictating, thumbing, thwacking, scrunching and squelching.
Abandoning – The male is brought to the brink of orgasm, right to the edge. When he can’t take anymore, that hand that’s stroking him lets go so no more stimulation is provided. His cock will bob and thrash, maybe release a little cum, but there’s no satisfaction of orgasm.
Bleeding – Bleeding keeps the male on the very edge for an extended period of time. It’s not so much he’s edging, but riding the edge so that copious amounts of precum flow. There’s no stimulation to push him over the edge, merely stimulation that makes him leak and beg for the main event… that’s not coming.
Dictating – When the male is about to cum, a forefinger is placed on the tip to stop the escape of any semen. There are also devices called “Popper Stoppers” that ruin an orgasm much more effectively than a finger. The seal a finger makes can break easily allowing more pleasure than it should. “Foreign Dictating” means using a device to make sure the seal sticks.
Thumbing – The male is brought to the edge until he just knows he’s going to pop, then a thumb corks the hole at the very last moment, forcing the ejaculate back into his balls. Thumbing is a painfully uncomfortable way to ruin an orgasm.
Thwacking – At the moment of orgasm, the sensitive underside of the penis is slapped or thwacked. This sends the penis into a sort of protective mode that shuts down all orgasmic processes immediately.
Scrunching – Scrunching means the head and upper part of the penis is squeezed hard to stop the flow of ejaculate. If scrunched hard enough, long enough, the orgasm ends before it ever begins. This is a newbie type of technique as it requires little prep work, only a tight grip.
Squelching – Squelching is similar to scrunching, but the pressure isn’t applied to the tip of the cock. It’s applied to the balls and the base of the penis to keep the semen from rising and escaping.
Are Ruined Orgasms for You?
In the hands of a skilled masturbatrix, ruined orgasms become a tool for erotic control. While some seminal fluid make leak or escape, the pleasurable feeling of orgasm never comes. This may sound tortuous, but many men enjoy the control exhibited by their “Ruinator”. Many of the ladies of LDW/Enchantrix enjoy ruining orgasms as part of their tease, denial and control programs. Talk to your phone mistress if you’re interested in learning more about ruined orgasms firsthand.
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I’ve tried the “squelching” and “thwacking” methods but those just seemed to tip me over each time. But now I know the names and a few other possibilities to try. I suppose practice makes perfect so I better get back to trying them out.
Perhaps you should try several ruined orgasm techniques to find the perfect one for you. Like in any other thing, personal preference trumps what’s “common” or “standard”. Exploration into new areas sometimes takes you to the wilderness, but there are times you’ll be lucky enough to find paradise. You never know til you try, right?
I’ve yet to get the hang of ruined orgasms. Maybe I just need to find the right technique for me.
Mmm, glad to see so many enjoy the thrill of a ruined orgasm! The lack of full release creates such interesting begging 🙂 There’s nothing quite like it!
this is great Ms Lauren. I’m seen these cum stoppers and wonder “where does the cum go?” does it back up? dribble? what?
It’s just reabsorbed by the body, kind of a reverse ejaculation. It’s pushed back from whence it came. Some men love the feeling, some hate it. It’s common in some Tantric practices where release, though not forbidden, is discouraged as a spiritual regression.
Great Essay Ms Lauren! Making them edge till they beg .. it’s like Music!
Genius! I just had a sad little stroker thwack himself on the phone and whimper that only a tiny drop escaped. I have a new favorite way to ruin!