Getting to Know Ms Claire

An Interview with Ms Claire of www.cockcontrol.com

A Year of Teasing and Pleasing…

Ally:Ms Claire, you recently celebrated your 1 year anniversary with LDW. Give us a wrap-up of your experience during the past year.

Claire: It’s hard to believe that a year has gone by so quickly! I’ve reAlly enjoyed my LDW journey thus far. While I enjoy all a wide variety of call types, I have been fortunate to not only session with, but truly bond with a number of clients who like the connection to be one that is deep, and resonates throughout their day-to-day life.

I’ve also been fortunate to have had some truly great women befriend me, and my life is better because of them.

Ally: What has been your favorite part of being involved with the LDW/Enchantrix community?

Claire: I’m a great advocate of opening ourselves to experiencing the energies flowing around us, and the entire LDW/Enchntrix community is teeming with such energies! Some are very sexual in nature, some are energies that need to feel the comfort of caring, and others are sprinkled at any number of places on the spectrum in between those two ends. I love immersing myself in those energies!

The LDW/Enchantrix community has so much to offer in terms of growth. Not only in our own sensual journeys, but in tolerance, education, etc. Each single member has something to teach.

A Kinky Learning Experience

Ally: What are some of the things that you know now, that you didn’t know a year ago, prior to joining us?

Claire: One thing really springs to mind when you ask that question. The answer was one that I would have probably thought was true before joining LDW, but now I have the experience to know the absolute answer.

There is contention, at times, over whether or not interactions that take place over a distance are “real” or not. I’ve seen discussions and polls on Enchantrix Empire discussing whether a face-to-face encounter is more “valid” than one experienced by the connection of a phone line.

My experience thus far is that the fact that a connection spans miles as opposed to inches does nothing to diminish the realness of the connection. They are simply different experiences and each can be incredibly powerful.

The mind is the area that truly fascinates me, and when I can make someone experience a touch that isn’t physicAlly happening, then the level of our connection is very, very real indeed. To both of us.

Beyond the Sex…

Ally: In your experience, what is your typical caller looking for when he makes a call? Sexual gratification? Or something else?

Claire: Oh, without a doubt, something else. If it were simply sexual gratification, and the person wanted external stimulation, the Internet provides a wealth of materials that can allow that to happen without the need to call LDW.

To answer that fully, I’d have to first point out that more than a few of my repeat clients and I have never done anything that resembles what is traditionally thought of in terms of phone sex. They call because they need an understanding, experienced, open minded, non-judgmental sounding board. Or they have an experience they want to share…any number of reasons why, really

Another range of clients contact me for a mix of traditional/non-traditional reasons. While the overall relationship is one that encompasses sexual gratification, they may not have time for a session, or the circumstances of their life may prevent one right at that moment. So they call between the traditional type of call to enjoy time just talking to me.

For callers that dial in with the sole intent of sexual gratification, I still think that they do so because they need that human element to bring the sexual experience they are having at that time to a richer, more mind-blowing fruition.

It’s said that no man is an island, and I think that is especially true when it comes to enjoying the erotic arts. Solo fun is well and good, and can certainly be enjoyed. But involving another and enjoying that connection…even if for a fleeting bit of time…takes things to a different, more pleasurable level.

Queen of the Guided Masturbation Sessions

Ally: When you and I chatted recently, you mentioned that you really love guided masturbation calls. Can you elaborate a bit on that?

Claire: Guided masturbation calls are so much fun! I’ve often said that control is my aphrodisiac, and GM sessions certainly give me control.

I’m an aural person, and I love the sounds that men make when they are touching exactly the way that I tell them to. It may be a way that they’ve never touched themselves before, or it may be that they’ve done it that way alone, but they are enjoying it so much more because it’s being done at my direction.

I never fail to marvel at sessions when I can tell that the caller is teetering right on the edge of orgasm, and either waits there for my command, or pulls back when I tell them to. It’s such a heady rush to hear the groan of ecstasy when release is granted, or frustrated roar when I tell them that no, I don’t think they are ready.

What’s not to love about that? ~winks~

Getting the Most Our of your Call with Ms Claire

Ally: When a new client calls you, what can he do before he calls to ensure that he receives the best experience possible?

Claire: I am a firm believer in pre-call communication. It allows us to make sure we are on the same page in terms of what type of experience the potential caller is really looking for.

That can be done in a few different ways. They can fill out the LDW standard Pre-Call Questionnaire, and note on it that they’d like their responses forwarded to me.

Instant chat via Yahoo is also possible, though I really do not find it to be the best environment to discuss any pre-call questions. When I am signed in for calls, there are far too many instances when I’m trying to answer questions in IM, and the conversational flow is interrupted, if not halted entirely, by a lengthy session.

Email is by far my preferred manner of non-phone communication. It allows me to answer when I am able to concentrate fully on what I am reading, and helps to ensure that I don’t miss something important.

If a potential caller feels that a chat via IM is essential before the call, then it is best that they email me so that we can schedule a time for a brief chat. I’ve found that scheduling these mini-chat appointments allows us to converse with my full attention, and gives the caller a chance to know me prior to the call.

I always direct people to my blog as well. Outside of spending time in a session, it is the best way of getting to know my style, get a feel for what I like, listen to my free audios, etc.

More of Ms Claire’s Specialties

Ally: In addition to guided masturbation, what would you consider your specialties?

Claire: Oh, now that is a question that could have a very lengthy answer! I’m insatiably curious, so when a certain niche or kink sparks a kindle in my mind, I am not satisfied until I drench myself in it, so to speak.

To keep the answer brief, I would say that I also specialize in chastity, orgasm control, feminization, coerced cock sucking, cuckolding, role play, CBT, body worship, and BDSM or D/s fantasy play.

Ally: What’s your age range?
(I know it’s not polite to ask a lady her specific age lol)

Claire: ~soft laugh~ No, and I have to remind an errant submissive of that fact now and then. I’m in my 40s, and believe I am truly at the best stage of my life.

Two Things You (Probably) Don’t Know about Ms Claire

Ally: So many of our clients love to speak with mature ladies – more life experience to share and draw upon 🙂 Tell me two things about yourself that you usuAlly don’t talk about in your online activities?

Claire: I think this is the most difficult question that you’ve asked thus far, because I tend to be very ‘out’ in terms of what I talk about, whether that is my love of all things Hello Kitty, how the mental aspect of shared interactions is what enthralls me, that my therapy comes from working in my flower gardens, or my real life D/s experiences.

While I do talk about the overall umbrella, if you will, of responsible domination, I don’t often get into the subtexts of the ways in which a dominant needs to exercise control of themselves while in session as part of that responsible domination. There are often conversations within the Enchantrix Empire about sub-space. For me, there is an equal, yet opposite, dominant-space, for lack of a better term. I simply do not have adequate words to explain how powerful that mental space can be, and how tight of a rein is necessary to keep on myself to remain in control of the session. That remains true whether it is a face-to-face session, or one taking place on the phone.

A non-kinky thing would be that before I began self-employment as an Internet marketer in 2004 that I had jobs that are as varied as my kinky tastes. I’ve done everything from working on a fishing boat to accounting to being an employment and training counselor. I think I have a wide range of interests, no matter the area of life we are talking about!

Ally: Is there anything else you’d like to share with our readers before we wrap up?

Claire: As a matter of fact, yes, there is. I was emailed a question as we were talking, and as it comes up now and then, I think this is a good venue to address it publicly.

The gentleman who mailed wanted to know if I would be interested in talking to him. He explained that he had no interest in dominance, but was looking for a relationship where we got to know each other, and gave each other mutual pleasure.

My answer to that was a resounding “yes”. I am very interested in those types of calls. We’ve covered it already in our talk today, but I like variety. So that means that I love sensual, romantic times with the right person as much as I enjoy laughing as I watch a cam show when the man is writhing in the agony of denial when I ruin his orgasm.

Ally: Excellent! Versatility is everything 🙂 Thank you very much for taking the time to chat with me today – I learned a lot!

Claire: You are so welcome, Ms Ally. Variety is indeed the spice of life, and I like it spicy!

Ally: Woohoo! Have a super lovely evening 🙂